Soft swinging is a good starting point for people who want to explore the scene while deciding exactly what they want.
The real names are:
- exhibitionism - where the couple want to have sex with each other while other people watch, but do not touch or join in.
- voyeurism - where the couple want to watch other people having sex, but do not want to touch or be touched by other people.
Some people have an intermediate step before becoming swingers proper, where they will indulge in oral sex with other people, but reserve full penetrative sex for their own partner.